In 2016 I decided to take my struggle into my own hands and started a couple of dating profiles on some well known apps and threw myself to the wolves. While no one lasted long enough to make a real impression, I did come out fairly unscathed and with some fun stories.
For those who aren’t in the dating game, you may not know what the term “ghosting” means. Webster just added it to the dictionary so fresh from those sheets the definition is “the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.” I admit to having ghosted more than my fair share of guys. Before Christ I was a savage with no care for the emotions of others so when I was done with someone I just dropped them and let them pick up the pieces alone. I feel like I definitely earned the karma that hit me in the next few ghost stories.
Ghost in the HTML: I met a cutie on one of the dating apps. If I had to be pinned down to a type he was all of the things and more. We quickly went from texting to calling and I felt so confident as to casual mention him to a friend as someone who had caught my interest. That may not seem like much to you but I am notoriously low key when it comes to relationships and RARELY if ever speak on someone who hasn’t committed to me. I don’t like to count my chickens before they hatch. So this was big for me! And then he disappeared. His profile dropped from the site. He stopped responded to my texts and calls. According to his social media he was alive….just not talking to me. I racked my brain to figure out what could have gone wrong, going over every conversation and text to see if I had done something wrong. It took me a couple of days to realize that he was just a ghost.
Blast from the Past: When I first got to Atlanta I was a party animal. I met a people all the time and went out a lot. None of these encounters were God touched so once I rededicated my life and tried living this life differently I put those things and way of life behind me. And a lot of it has slipped out of my mind and I walk around oblivious….until an ex pops up unexpectedly. I was on the way to dinner with one of my girl’s downtown (my old stomping grounds) and while looking for parking a familiar face emerged from the cars. Once the face, name and place aligned in my mind only one thought crossed my mind “HIDE!” I slide down in my seat and passed his car hoping not to be seen. I parked quickly and slid even further down just in case he walked in my direction. Frantically I called one of my friend’s who would get it and told her my predicament. After waiting for her to stop laughing at me and letting her know the seriousness of my situation and the deathly nature of this embarrassment she said that she couldn’t help me. Since there were no reinforcements I gathered all of my things from the car and RAN into the restaurant. I checked every table I passed from his face but he wasn’t there and I had a great night with my girl. He was a ghost.
I hope I’m not traumatizing anyone with these stories but my dating life is just this random. I hope I at least gave you a giggle—check me out next week when I share all the brain melting weirdness that is online dating.